What is the first thing you talk about with your bestie? Yes, you share good news, but mostly, let’s face it you share the bad and you complain and let off steam and it feels amazing, right? And then after you laid it all out and cried, shouted and agonised, you ended the conversation with “thank you for putting up with me”, right?
It doesn’t end there though. You then run all that you have said and all that you have experienced in your head; you keep on running the negative, and the bad, the anger, and the frustration and… you don’t know where it begins and where it ends. Of course it is good for the system to let out steam, but then you focus on the bad that you have in your life and we all know the rules of abundance; the more thankful and positive you are, the better the positive and love you willget.
Robert A. Emmons from University of California and Davis Michael E. McCullough from University of Miami in their research Counting Blessings Versus Burdens: An Experimental Investigation of Gratitude and Subjective Well-Being in Daily Life have concluded without any exceptions that, counting our blessings and being grateful are what affects our quality of life and our happiness.
In their research they asked some of the participants: “There are many things in our lives, both large and small, that we might be grateful about. Think back over the past week and write down on the lines below up to five things in your life that you are grateful for, or thankful for.”
They asked the other group just to describe their day. Both groups had to do it only for a few minutes a day.
After following the participants, their discoveries were astounding; not only that the participants who wrote their blessings were happier, but they were kinder, more decisive and much more optimistic. Oh and there’s more; they became more active, were less prone for sickness and slept better.
(I guess Karma and abundance are a real thing! When you think positively, things are good and when you do good, you receive more of the good.)
When we think about our blessings and what we do have, we train our brain to think differently; and it helps us to feel better within an instant to be open to more positive experiences. It is one of the traits of positive psychology and everyone, including you, can start practicing it. I urge you to begin now. There’s no need to be on our deathbed or experience a life changing event to appreciate what we have!
We can start now.
Start from the small things like drinking your morning coffee or spending the night in your own bed or seeing your children playing together. In the beginning, it might feel strange, but the more you do it; the more it becomes natural to you.
You know what, let's do it together! We invite you to 21 days of gratitude!
Every day we will ask you to share with us (or with your friends) 3 things that you are grateful for.
It can be anything!
We will all count our blessings together.
After those 21 days, we will check with ourselves and see if we are challenging Emmons & McCullough’s research or proving them right.
Let the blessings begin!